Holiday season survival tips

It's that time of the year again. Holiday season! The time of year people expect you to be happy and in good cheer. How many people really talk about the holiday stress of having to get everything done: shopping, decorating, Christmas cards.

Now as this is stressful for the general population, you can imagine how much harder it is going to be for Highly sensitive people or those coping with pain. More often than usual you don't want to show your family and friends how stressed you are and of course everything you do has to be perfect. :)

Yet I tell you it is time to change. It is hard to hear, but don't try to be perfect, good is good enough.

Here are some plans to get through the holiday season  with less stress and more enjoyment

• Plan! Plan! Plan! Start your preparations early! Best is to make a plan of all you have to do and leave yourself plenty of free time for days that you are really not up to doing anything.
• Prioritise, go through your Christmas card list and ask yourself do you really need to send them all? Did everyone return your cards last year? Could you just send some people an online card? The same with sending parcels. Does it give you stress or pleasure?
• Delegate! Delegate! Delegate. Listen carefully, you do not have to do everything on your own. Family and friends are capable of helping and often they are glad to help you. They would rather see you happy and doing less than miserable when doing everything on your own. A hard thing to get for us perfectionists.
• Say no. If you are not up for family visits Christmas eve and/or both days of Christmas, don't do it. Think of yourself first.

 I know this is not as easy as it sounds. You don't want to let anyone down. But keep in mind, if you try to please everyone around you, you are going to be the one ending up in pain and with a lot of stress. Look after yourself first.

Let me know if you have any holiday tips and success stories of managing your stress in this last month of the year.
 

Summer holiday!!!!

It's that time of year again for me! Tomorrow I leave for my summer holiday. [And no I am not leaving an empty house!] 

For me it is an essential part of my life. I don't really mind if it is not some expensive far away location but something closer by. As long as I am away from my daily routine. This year I am going to Wales and Kent. Two places that I love very much.

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Going on vacation has changed over the last couple of years. When I was young you just packed your clothes, toiletries, travel documents, passport and a camera. Of course there were challenges as well. In the old days you needed to get foreign money before you left or travel cheques and hen trying to find banks while you travelled. On the weekend, you had a problem if you ran out of money as banks generally were not open on saturday.

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It seems simpler now doesn't it? Hmmm, until you start making a list of what you really need to take. Everything these days seems to come with a charger and of course all chargers are different. If you are not carefull you end up with half your suitcase filled with chargers.

That leads to another question. Do I really want to be online when I am holiday? do I want to see what is going on in the rest of the world. Anwser emails, phonecalls, or not? Wifi or 3G are so tempting because it is handy to look up adresses and check routes. But still holiday should be holiday and being online all the time means my stress would not be gone completely.


This year I will be wifi less for the first week, deep in the wilderness of North Wales. The next and last 4 days I will have wifi and I will have to work one evening. But this choice feels good to me.


So what do you do on holiday?


[My next post will be in the last week of June]